A pregnant woman is seeking advice from the Reddit community after facing pushback from her husband over who should be allowed in the delivery room and waiting room during childbirth.
The 26-year-old expectant mom, currently 34 weeks pregnant, shared that she and her husband, 27, are preparing for their first child, a baby boy, in just six weeks. She explained that she has been clear about her boundaries regarding the delivery from early in the pregnancy.
“I have already talked to hubs mom a few months into being pregnant about it and she has said herself that she has birthed 3 kids so is completely fine with not being in the delivery room or waiting room,” she wrote.
Original Plan: Only Husband and Support Person
The mom-to-be noted that she and her husband had multiple conversations agreeing that only he and her support person—her twin sister—would be present.
“I have had this conversation with my husband several times and he was fine with it the first few times about not wanting anyone in the waiting room or delivery room besides him and my support person,” she explained.
She clarified that she does not want a large audience during labor:
“I don’t have a super close relationship with my mom, and I don’t want my bonus mom or MIL, who are both wonderful as support partners, [there] during labor and delivery, and that’s been the plan since we found out I was pregnant.”
Husband Changes His Mind
As the due date approaches, the husband reportedly changed his stance, claiming it is unfair that he cannot have his mother present to support him.
“He said that he should be allowed support too and is even more upset that I didn’t want a bunch of people to even know I was in labor when the time comes,” the mom wrote.
She also noted that her husband is a self-described “major mama’s boy”, but emphasized that he had known about this plan for seven months.
Mom-to-Be Stands Firm
The expecting mother explained that childbirth is unpredictable, and she wants to maintain control over her own birth experience:
“It could take days, or 20 minutes. We don’t need an audience more than just us,” she wrote.
She offered a compromise for communication: her husband can stay in touch with his mother via text, as long as it does not interfere with the labor experience.
“I was like you could text her throughout but I need your focus on us and not constantly worrying about your mom and making sure she’s good in the waiting room when I’m the one having to go through everything,” she shared.
The mom-to-be added that her mother-in-law had already agreed not to come until both she and the baby are ready.
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Reddit Community Responds
Many commenters supported her boundaries:
“The only people in the waiting room and or delivery room are the people you alone want there. Don’t let anyone ruin your peace when you’re about to give birth. No one is entitled to ANY part of your birth.”
Others offered a different perspective:
“I can understand not wanting her in the delivery room, but I think you’re being a bit much by saying she can’t be in the waiting room. Your husband, while not giving birth, is still going to be stressed and would probably feel some comfort having his mom there for support.”
The discussion highlights the delicate balance between expectant mothers’ control over their birth experience and family dynamics during a major life event.
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